Nicky's Journal

Dating Adventure

I decided I would try "its just lunch"

http://www.itsjustlunch.com/

they call you to chat

150 markets, international

stress confidentiality

they find matches by reviewing their database, and going out and finding people

they interview based on perimeters, and you have a permanent team

two way matches only - both of you need to agree to the date

they require post date eval/feedback to refine your matches

membership req is minimum 1 year $2300
6mo hold allowed

min 5-10 matches

suggested meetup.com since they have too few people to try and match me

very professional and helpful

OK so "it's just lunch" is an awesome company, they had no one local so suggested i didn't give them money but check back later

They also have a solid plan, and gave me dating tips even though I am not a client ("it's just lunch") if i ever move they will get a call

Update on dating sites

chemistry.com - I paid, made 1 email friend, left site early as it was dumping incomparable people on me en mass

match.com - I paid, too busy of an interface, a few winks and other things, some messages, none i've really wanted to chat with, also offering me wildly inappropriate matches

Plenty of fish POF - so many messages I can't keep up, large amount of crap, large amount that can't be ruled out right away so i have to spend time reading profiles. removing profile reduced messages to trickle, not bad just way too many people who belong on AFF

OK Cupid - a good amount of messages, normal mix of crap and actual conversations, OK but again people belong on AFF for just hookups

Reddit, A++++ multiple dates lined up, good conversations going!

Adult friend finder AFF, not trying there, no pic so only a few winks, a few notes back and forth

http://www.asexualitic.com/ no locals found, not great interface

Twitter - 1 found, not bad

Zoosk - dropped quickly, too busy, too many crap messages

suggested to try:
http://www.2date4love.com/
4chan (terrifying idea)
http://www.aspieaffection.com/
http://www.aspiedating.net/
http://dating.thechive.com/
http://www.swinglifestyle.com/
http://www.swingersocial.com/
http://www.gk2gk.com/
http://www.soulgeek.com/
http://www.sweetongeeks.com/node
http://www.geek2geekdating.com/

I guess i am a bit blunt?

Tips for single straight men on dating sites

Read her profile, introduce yourself with a quick question about something in her profile or at least a comment about it.

Simply saying hi, wanna talk, your cute, etc. will get you ignored

Don't proposition for sex, want sex? try adult friend finder or similar sites (there are many) that will be targeting only women who want sex, you'll have better luck

Try to use full works and not text massage speak, at least in your first few messages

Have at least one picture, try and have it of your whole face, forehead only is weird. A whole body shot (with clothes!) is also helpful. yes it is shallow but most people won't date someone they aren't physically attracted to. Admit it you do the same.

Geek / Nerd seeking a partner to enjoy things with.

I am looking for someone who is skilled where I am not, a partner to take on life with.

I grew up Jewish / Roman Catholic but am not religious. I would prefer a partner be non-religious, or at least willing to participate in their spirituality alone and leave me out of it.

I do not want children.

I do not smoke, and don't want to date anyone that smokes.

I am:
A gun owner and pro second amendment.
A Sexual (don't like sex)
Kinky (BDSM - masochist not submissive or top, and i don't mix sex into my kink)
Polyamorous / Open relationships (FYI it's hard to get security clearance with the US Government if involved with poly)
Heteroflexible (prefer men)

Hobbies:
Tea - I own a tea company and love trying new teas
geek/nerd TV / movies (Dr Who, Star Trek, Star Wars, Xena, Battlestar Galactica, other Sci Fi)
gamer (pc, console, board, card, dice, RPG, LARP)
hacker/infosec (DEFCON, shmoocon, HOPE, BSides)
Reading (fiction, non fiction, all the books!)
Shooting (Range with paper targets, never tried trap/skeet)
love to travel - well being somewhere not getting there

Pets:
Rabbit

Bad with:
saving / money management
cooking
directions

I dislike driving and can't wait until we can all just appear somewhere!

I am type A and like making lists (you couldn't guess from the crazy lists of things above?)

Random information, I only have one eye, the other is lazy and blind meaning I have no 3D / depth perception.

prior rants:
http://amazonv.livejournal.com/tag/dating