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amazonvTips for single straight men on dating sites
Read her profile, introduce yourself with a quick question about something in her profile or at least a comment about it.
Simply saying hi, wanna talk, your cute, etc. will get you ignored
Don't proposition for sex, want sex? try adult friend finder or similar sites (there are many) that will be targeting only women who want sex, you'll have better luck
Try to use full works and not text massage speak, at least in your first few messages
Have at least one picture, try and have it of your whole face, forehead only is weird. A whole body shot (with clothes!) is also helpful. yes it is shallow but most people won't date someone they aren't physically attracted to. Admit it you do the same.
Read her profile, introduce yourself with a quick question about something in her profile or at least a comment about it.
Simply saying hi, wanna talk, your cute, etc. will get you ignored
Don't proposition for sex, want sex? try adult friend finder or similar sites (there are many) that will be targeting only women who want sex, you'll have better luck
Try to use full works and not text massage speak, at least in your first few messages
Have at least one picture, try and have it of your whole face, forehead only is weird. A whole body shot (with clothes!) is also helpful. yes it is shallow but most people won't date someone they aren't physically attracted to. Admit it you do the same.
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Date: 2013-01-10 10:10 pm (UTC)I guess I have a hard time wrapping my head around the fool things people do on these sites.
Personally I try to always respond; my feeling is that it's possible that the person who sent me the message is a shy person for whom managing to take the initiative is a significant expenditure of emotional resources - but, I don't GET very many messages, so giving each one a polite, personal response is not terribly difficult; that policy would probably go out the window if I suffered a deluge of messages. Sometime I am tempted to ignore, on account of "Why the FUCK did you message me? You're far-right, crazy denomination of Christian, you want lots of kids, and you live in Bumfuck, PA. Did you even look at my profile???" and I'm trying to find a polite way to say that. Though the ones I really feel like crap over are the moderately compatible sort that I just don't find attractive; I have yet to find a way to respond that I'm comfortable with.
What I find most frustrating about the whole process is that for the most part it feels like sending out messages in bottles - I drop it out there, nothing happens. I have no way of knowing if the message was received, if it was read, if the other person shares a language with me, if it got ignored due to an incorrect assumption, or a correct assessment, or what. There's no feedback, and there's no agency to get interaction. Which is just the way the system is set up, but it's terribly frustrating.